Good life…does it exist?

My husband of 14 years has taught me invaluable lessons.

Our discussions include polarized perspectives because we come from a different cultural background. What’s more, is we are 13 years apart in age. When I think about it, he actually has 13 years ahead of me in experience. He has already lived a life that I want to experience. He has gained the wisdom that I am still looking forward to experiencing. I told him that I sometimes tend to judge him because he can’t know everything. I struggle to make a point sometimes because I pre-judge his perspective.

In the end, I have grown appreciation of our differences, perspectives and the gaps both culture and age.

I envy him.

He looks so comfortable and at peace with his current position in life. I am living that same life with him yet I feel like I have to fight for everything that I feel I need to achieve.

At what point will I meet him at my own crossroad? At which point I will stop and enjoy those moments? At which time I will say enough, because I already have enough? At what point  will I come to accept how beautiful my life is now?  At what point will I stop taking these things for granted?

Gratitude is a lifestyle. Gratitude is a choice.


Comments (25)

  1. Jason B - Reply

    October 31, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    Age is nothing but a number. The good life definitely exists.

  2. safariontheblog - Reply

    October 31, 2015 at 9:34 am

    Great post Mahal, thanks for sharing your journey.
    I believe the good life truly exist when you learn to be grateful for life as it is. Life can never be perfect, it comes with ups and downs.

    • Maha Hudson - Reply

      October 31, 2015 at 5:01 pm

      It is a journey and I love being authentic about it. Thanks for acknowledging this journey.

  3. Pamela Chollet - Reply

    October 29, 2015 at 10:14 am

    Strong ,connected relationships are built on a fame of our core values. Personal and professional life experiences cloth our uniqueness. You and your husband’s core essences, what you truly value in life,are connected, Your presence,energy and spirit have a profound effect on your husband’s life. It’s like a beautiful dance. You allow him to move freely. Don’t look down and watch his feet , to learn his dance steps; you’ll trip : )

    • Maha Hudson - Reply

      October 31, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      Dance! Great perspective!

  4. Marquita Herald - Reply

    October 28, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    I sincerely hope you never get to the point you feel you have “grown enough” but I do like how you value the differences between you and your husband. Personally I believe a lot of what we attribute to age is really all about attitude. My late grandmother-in-law was one of my most favorite women in the world – loved debating politics, watching roller derby, and telling dirty jokes right up until the day she passed at 105. I’ve known people half her age that acted much older. Thanks for the inspiration Mahal!

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 29, 2015 at 12:47 am

      Thank you, Marquita for sharing your wisdom. Your grandmother-in-law seems to be the woman who embodies authenticity and age shows no boundaries.

      I like what you pointed out: “never get to the point (we) feel (we) have grown enough” – that was a powerful perspective.

  5. Rose M Griffith - Reply

    October 28, 2015 at 11:05 am

    Yes to celebrating the differences twelve years can make instead of the chasm years can make. The good life is right here, right now, in every moment we are awake and experiencing the new–whatever age perspective is involved!

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 29, 2015 at 12:49 am

      Thank you Rose for sharing your insight. Yes, the good life is here, something that I need to remind myself everyday.

  6. Sabrina Q. - Reply

    October 28, 2015 at 8:03 am

    Great post. I feel everyone has their own path and we can not compare ourselves to others and their journey. It will only take us on a downward spiral and stop us from progressing on our own path. We are strong and we make our own lives the way we want them to be. Being grateful is a great tool to help us recognize our strengthen and support which helps us move beyond our limitations. Thank you for sharing your inner journey.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 29, 2015 at 12:51 am

      Thank you Sabrina for acknowledging the need for me to celebrate my “inner journey.”

  7. Ken Dowell - Reply

    October 26, 2015 at 4:14 pm

    I think it is all about being comfortable with yourself which apparently your husband is. That doesn’t mean that you don’t strive and explore and try new things. You can be comfortable with where you are or you can be comfortable with the way you keep looking to discover more.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:03 pm

      Thank you Ken. I like what you said: keep looking to discover more.

  8. Meredith @ The Palette Muse - Reply

    October 26, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    Great perspective! I believe the good life does truly exist when we take time to appreciate the good life that we already have.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:07 pm

      Thank you Meredith for your acknowledgment.

      We do encounter moments in our lives to be authentic and courageous even in dark days, I had that moment.

  9. Jacqueline Gum - Reply

    October 26, 2015 at 10:58 am

    Awww… I think you underestimate your own strength! He’s probably learned so much from you too. But that the beauty of the ying and the yang. So enjoy that … it’s a great thing:)

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:16 pm

      Yes, 100%, I underestimated my strength in those moments I inquire about our journey and with my moments of weakness. Yin and yang…I love that takeaway from this.

  10. Erica - Reply

    October 25, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    My husband is only 12 days older than me. It is interesting to go through life with someone who had almost the same entry point onto the earth. However, we both have very different strength and I think that is how we complement each other. You have strengths that your husband probably doesn’t have from being from a different generation. We all have something to give. I do think age more and more allows us to recognize those strengths and perhaps that is what you envy in your husband.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:13 pm

      Thank you for sharing your perspective. It seems the age gap seems irrelevant yet we find the gap as both joy and pain.

  11. Phoenicia - Reply

    October 25, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    I felt an element of sadness after reading your article.

    On the odd occasion I have compared myself to my dh. Why I do not know – he is several years older and had a completely different start in life. I am inspired by a number of his characteristics.

    I am learning to be grateful for my life as it is. Yes, there are more we would like as a family but I want to be content in the meantime. Some days it is easier than others.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:11 pm

      Awww..Phoenicia, you are an empath, I felt somehow you shared my moments of pain and sadness, thank you!
      And you are right, some days are easier than others.

  12. Donna Janke - Reply

    October 25, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    I think you stop and enjoy the moment now. The different perspectives you and your husband bring to your shared life enrich you both. That is something to be grateful for.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 27, 2015 at 8:09 pm

      Thank you Donna.

      You are right, I had that thought too, which revealed somehow as a struggle here that both of us have different perspectives and I would like to acknowledge that it’s not easy most of the time. Yet, we owe to ourselves to be grateful still.

  13. Jeri - Reply

    October 23, 2015 at 12:24 am

    All of us are growing and constantly changing… never on the same page. There’s so much we can teach and learn from those in our lives. It never ends. That to me is the good life.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      October 25, 2015 at 12:27 pm

      Thanks Jeri for pointing out the need to constantly changing and GROWING.

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