Are you blind?

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Do you ever wonder why we hear complaints more often than someone offering a solution? Why is it when we’ve been asked to talk about improvements we easily resort to finger pointing of faults and others’ responsibility than starting with the word “l” or “we”?  Are we by nature a  fault finder human being? Or we’re just a love deprived human beings and fault finding becomes necessary to survive the day to day?

 

Are there any alternatives to enjoy : living, working and playing?

 

Though we may find these questions controversial, uncomfortable, possibly unnecessary or we may feel to ask “why bother” to delve into this because there’s nothing good will come out from truth or revelations.

 

Transparency is for the weak, a business suicide and a leadership weakness. Do you really believe that? Or just like you and I, we desperately yearn for answers, changes, improvement, joy, truth, love, recognition, and authentic transparency?

 

I think the right question is: when will you wake up and start standing up for these yearnings. When did courage become a joke, a taboo, a disease that we paralyze ourselves from living powerfully?

 

So, where do you stand now?

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Comments (18)

  1. Erica - Reply

    March 14, 2015 at 5:55 pm

    I think it really is easier to point fingers than take responsibility. There are always going to be those that want someone to blame. I do think that people often find fault with others to cover up insecurities. It will never be a perfect world, but the best thing that can be done is to find people to surround yourself with in your personal life that adhere to your values.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      September 12, 2015 at 11:06 pm

      I love that you point out that the wisdom from “surrounding yourself with people who uplifts you” remains true.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Erica.

  2. Beth Niebuhr - Reply

    March 14, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    I don’t know any really fine people who indulge in blaming others. If they have something helpful to suggest, they always make it very positive.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      September 12, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      You are right, “fine” people does not indulge themselves with blaming because they found wisdom and walk with that wisdom. Something all of us should follow.

      Thanks for sharing Beth.

  3. Ken Dowell - Reply

    March 13, 2015 at 11:48 pm

    I remember reading a book a few years ago called Shop Class as Soul Craft. it was about work. The author made the point that many managers don’t actually add value and that they justify their existence by finding fault with others.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 14, 2015 at 9:16 am

      Thank you Ken and I will echo what you said because I think it is so powerful: “managers don’t actually add value and that they justify their existence by finding fault with others.” Sad but true. BUT…leaders can be transformed.

  4. Jason B - Reply

    March 13, 2015 at 4:33 pm

    Courage became a joke when people started wanting to fit in. It sucks that there are more followers than leaders out there.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 14, 2015 at 9:14 am

      I like your perspective Jason, yes it sucks that there are more followers than leaders. Followers are not realizing their potentials to be a leader – to empower and inspire and not just be followed because of position of power/ authority.

  5. Jacqueline Gum - Reply

    March 12, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Finger pointing has long been a source of aggravation to me. It’s only effective when it is constructive or instructive. “ket me show you how you might handle that more effectively” gets far more results than “Hey…YOU screwed up!”

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 12, 2015 at 9:37 pm

      I wish everyone are courageous as you described and how I yearn everyone would do this.

  6. Lenie - Reply

    March 12, 2015 at 10:51 am

    I think the finger pointing is definitely showing a person’s insecurity coming through. It seems to me we are living in more permissive and selfish society that the focus is on what we want. When we don’t get it or achieve it, it is easier to blame others or conditions outside of our control for that failure.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 12, 2015 at 9:35 pm

      Thank you Lenie for dropping by. Your wisdom reminded me of Brene Brown’s you tube video about “blame” and it was inspirational.

  7. William Rusho - Reply

    March 12, 2015 at 9:57 am

    Criticism is a way to point away from you; it is a form of insecurity. You believe when you get others attention on someone else’s faults, they will not pay attention to yours.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 12, 2015 at 9:33 pm

      100% agree with you that criticism is a form of insecurity. I have seen this in many different situations and it disappoints me more when they hold an important position in the organization.

  8. Mina Joshi - Reply

    March 12, 2015 at 5:33 am

    It’s always easy to criticise and find faults. I always feel that one should learn to turn that criticism into something positive by addressing them and finding a way of making things better.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 12, 2015 at 9:29 pm

      Yes Mina, I have observed that we are prone to find fault yet we yearn to be acknowledged and praised. Thank you for the tip: address it positively and focus in solution than faults.

  9. Andy - Reply

    March 12, 2015 at 1:36 am

    I am wary of generalizing but it does seem as though there are an awful lot of people out there who do not like to take responsibility for their actions.

    I wouldn’t call myself a “fault-finder” but I’ll cop to being cynical a lot of the time: cynicism is an easy ‘default’ position in this day and age. That said, I don’t believe that transparency is a weakness or that courage is a joke, and I agree with the saying by British writer Harold Wilkins that “the world of achievement has always belonged to the optimist”. I soldier on and do the best I can.

    • Mahal Hudson - Reply

      March 12, 2015 at 9:27 pm

      Thank you for the inspiration Andy about Harold Wilkins quote.

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